Saturday 9 March 2013

Oh, Lordy! Temper, Temper!

Here are a few videos of members of the religion of peace losing their cool. Funny how it's the same all over the world.

Deary me. What a carry-on! Fortunately, a Danish psychologist going by the name of Nicolai Sennels has the answer, in this excerpt from the New English Review:

Muslim culture has a very different view of anger and in many ways opposite to what we experience here in the West. 

Expressions of anger and threats are probably the quickest way to lose one's face in Western culture. In discussions, those who lose their temper have automatically lost, and I guess most people have observed the feeling of shame and loss of social status following expressions of aggression at one's work place or at home. In the Muslim culture, aggressive behavior, especially threats, are generally seen to be accepted, and even expected as a way of handling conflicts and social discrepancies. If a Muslim does not respond in a threatening way to insults or social irritation, he, not "she" (Muslim women are, mostly, expected to be humble and to not show power) is seen as weak, as someone who cannot be depended upon and loses face. 

In the eyes of most Westerners it looks immature and childish when people try to use threatening behavior, to mark their dislikes. A Danish saying goes "…Only small dogs bark. Big dogs do not have to." That saying is deeply rooted in our cultural psychology as a guideline for civilized social behavior. To us, aggressive behavior is a clear sign of weakness. It is a sign of not being in control of oneself and lacking ability to handle a situation. We see people's ability to remain calm as self confidence, allowing them to create a constructive dialogue. Their knowledge of facts, use of common sense and ability in producing valid arguments is seen as a sign of strength. 

So that, dear friends, is why there is no arguing with these people.

1 comment:

  1. Education is the ability to listen to almost anything without losing your temper or your self-confidence. See the link below for more info.


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